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  • Boundaries

    Saying no to a plan

    Thanks for asking. I'm going to say no this time, but I'd love to catch up another way soon.
  • Boundaries

    Needing time before answering

    Can I have a bit of time to think about that? I'll get back to you by tomorrow.
  • Boundaries

    Protecting a quiet evening

    I've got nothing on tonight on purpose. It's how I recharge, so I'm going to stay in.
  • Boundaries

    When someone keeps pushing

    I've already said no, and that's still my answer. Let's leave it there.
  • Boundaries

    Preferring texts to calls

    I find calls hard, but I'm great at texting. Message me any time and I'll reply when I can.
  • Boundaries

    Physical touch

    I'm not a hugger, but it's really good to see you.
  • Leaving and cancelling

    Leaving a party early

    I've had a lovely time. I'm going to head off now while I've still got some energy. See you soon!
  • Leaving and cancelling

    Cancelling plans kindly

    I'm really sorry, I'm running on empty today and need to cancel. Could we find another day next week?
  • Leaving and cancelling

    Agreeing to go, with limits

    I'd love to come for the first hour or so. I'll probably slip off before the music starts.
  • Leaving and cancelling

    Taking a break mid-event

    I'm just going to get some fresh air for ten minutes. I'll be back.
  • Small talk

    An easy opener

    How's your week been so far?
  • Small talk

    Steering to something interesting

    What have you been into lately? Any good shows or hobbies?
  • Small talk

    Ending a conversation

    It's been good chatting. I'm going to grab a drink. Catch you later.
  • Small talk

    When you didn't catch something

    Sorry, it's a bit loud in here. Could you say that again?
  • Overload and speech

    Losing speech

    I can't talk right now, but I'm okay. I'll text you.
  • Overload and speech

    Explaining you need quiet

    I'm getting overloaded. I need somewhere quiet for a bit. It's not about you.
  • Overload and speech

    Asking someone to slow down

    Could you give me one thing at a time? I take in information better that way.
  • Work

    Asking for instructions in writing

    Could you pop that in a message for me? I work best when I can refer back to it.
  • Work

    Asking for an agenda

    Is there an agenda for the meeting? It helps me prepare and contribute properly.
  • Work

    Needing time to respond

    Good question. Can I think about it and come back to you by the end of the day?
  • Work

    Declining a social work event

    Thanks for the invite. I'll sit this one out, but I hope it's a good one.
  • Work

    When priorities are unclear

    I've got A, B and C on. Which should I do first?
  • Repair after conflict

    After a meltdown or shutdown

    Sorry about earlier. I was overloaded and couldn't handle it in the moment. Can we talk now?
  • Repair after conflict

    When you came across as blunt

    I think what I said came out more bluntly than I meant. What I was trying to say was…
  • Repair after conflict

    Checking you're okay

    I've been thinking about our conversation. Are we okay?
  • Repair after conflict

    Needing time before talking

    I want to sort this out, but I need a bit of time first. Can we talk tomorrow?
  • Asking for help

    Asking a friend to body double

    Would you sit with me on a call while I do some admin? You don't have to help, just be there.
  • Asking for help

    Telling someone you're struggling

    I'm finding things hard at the moment. I don't need you to fix it. Could you check in on me this week?
  • Asking for help

    Asking for an adjustment

    Would it be possible to [your request]? It would really help me with [the difficulty].
  • Phone and admin

    Asking to switch to email

    Would it be possible to continue this by email? I find it easier to follow in writing.
  • Phone and admin

    Asking for a moment on a call

    Sorry, can I have a second to write that down?
  • Phone and admin

    Telling a service you're autistic

    I'm autistic, and I process spoken information more slowly. Could you go a bit slower, or send me the details in writing?

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